If you have to hide it, it isn't worth it...

I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine, we'll call him Tyrone. He and his girlfriend just broke up and he wanted to talk about it. I only had a term paper, quiz, and laundry to do so I said, "Sure, I'm not busy." Now I wish I had recorded the conversation so I could accurately relay it back to you, but hindsight... anyway! Tyrone and his girlfriend were arguing (as they were known to do) about something totally unrelated when Tyrone says, "Shaniqua hasn't been here in months!"

{{SCReeeCH!}}

Girlfriend knows Shaniqua is Tyrone's ex. Girlfriend didn't know Shaniqua had ever been to Tyrone's new house, or even knew where Tyrone lives since he moved about 6 months into his relationship with girlfriend. So now, guess what? They are arguing about Shaniqua.

Girlfriend: "What do you mean Shaniqua has been here?"
Tyrone: "It was only a couple of times."
Girlfriend: "What happened to you not even wanting her to know where you live?"
Tyrone: "She just stopped by...."
Girlfriend: "How could she just "stop by" if she doesn't know where you live?"
Tyrone: "This is exactly why I didn't tell you. I knew you'd respond this way."

{{{SCReeeCH!}}

My sage advise to Tyrone (and anyone else who may find themselves in this situation), "If you knew she would react badly, you knew you were doing wrong." If you're about to do "something" and the thought enters your mind that you can't tell your partner what you're about to do, then you really shouldn't do that "something." Otherwise it's just a problem (maybe insurmountable) that is waiting to be discovered.

So says me!